No wonder 2013 is the year DOMA got struck down says Felicia Bender, a.k.a. The Practical Numerologist…it’s the year of the SIX. What can living under the number of relationships, truth and vision mean for your life path?
Numerologically speaking, 2013 is a Six Universal Year (add together the year like this: 2013 = 2 + 0 + 1 + 3 = 6), and this Six brings with it a lot of energies – primarily the energy of nurturing, love of home, responsibility, beauty, and justice. The Six is a very magnetic number and is also the number of The Visionary.
I find the striking down of the DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) a fabulous indicator of the powerful energy of this Six Universal Year. This “big picture” number brings with it the opportunity and propensity to look past the end of our noses and envision greater possibilities in life. Many numerologists also call the Six the “marriage and divorce” number. It demands that we reevaluate all of our relationships – but first and foremost this means our relationship with ourselves. Are we living authentically? Are we surrounding ourselves with people and circumstances in our lives that support and inspire us, or are we surrounding ourselves with things that drag us down and stymy our personal growth?
Here are some examples of things I’m seeing happen in my circle: marriages being called off just hours before the ceremony, marriages happening quickly (surprise!), people leaving marriages because of affairs, because they suddenly just know that this isn’t the right partner for them, because it just isn’t working. Relationships with family of origin are also becoming intense. Siblings, parents and adult children are colliding with each other in significant ways they haven’t done before.
And people are risking, risking, risking all they know in order to start relating to themselves, their families and their significant others in a redefined way that embodies who they really are. This year, the facade is being stripped away and the REAL DEAL is being exposed. Yet it is raw, vulnerable, and, if it hasn’t seen the light of day in a while, what’s underneath requires attention and nurturing in order for it to come to life.
What does this mean for you? Calculate your Life Path number like this:
Take your full date of birth and add it together.
Example: 8/14/1963
8+1+4+1+9+6+3= 32
Keep adding until you get a 1-digit number.
32 = 3+2 = 5
If this were your birth date, you’d be a Five Life Path.
And so…AVOIDING RELATIONSHIP WOES BY THE NUMBERS
One Life Path
- Even though you’re here to be #1 in all you do, listen to others when they want to support you and when they need support from you.
- Know that your tendency is to be self-absorbed. In this year of relationship intensity, look up from your own navel and see what your loved ones need from you and give it gently and with heart.
- Get to know when your lack of self-confidence throws you into a tizzy and mindfully work on expanding your sense of self-confidence this year by doing anything that supports that, from diet and exercise to therapy.
Two Life Path
- Since you’re super-sensitive, you’re feeling these intense relationship energy in spades.Your first line of action: Develop healthy emotional boundaries and use them – today!
- You’re the harmonizer and any kind of conflict gives you an upset stomach. Practice self care this year in order to decompress from the heightened relationship energies that are all around you. Take care of YOU before you attempt to take care of everyone else.
- You’re all about partnerships. If your partnerships are under strain, resist the urge to hang on to them if they are finished. It takes a lot for the Two Life Path to let go, regroup, and move to the next level in relationships. But LET GO.
Three Life Path
- You’re a trusting soul. So much so that you can attract takers in your life. Is this coming into play for you this year? Take the time to step back to truly see the people in your life and attempt to distance yourself from anyone who leaves you feeling drained.
- This goes for friends and family – who do you feel energized by before, during, and after you interact? Spend more time with those people, delete or limit your time with the others.
- Since you’re here to hone your emotional sensitivity, this is your year to dig down into your real, true emotions and express them in a healthy way. You’ll have ample opportunities to practice this during the year (understatement).
Four Life Path
- This year can challenge your sense of security and stability. You enjoy light routine, but you’ll be tested to take a few risks this year. Just do it.
- In this year of relationships, you’ll undoubtedly be faced with some old emotional stuff that comes back into play and must be dealt with and healed, but avoid this at your peril.
- Since you’re all about hard work, this year might feel pretty heavy for you. Take some time to relax and get your party feet dirty!
Five Life Path
- Are you a Five who’s desperately seeking “the” relationship? Or are you in one that no longer interests you? Either way, this year is your year to dig deep and decide what you want and come up with a light plan about how you might get there.
- Feeling hemmed in? Your worst nightmare. Before throwing in the towel, consider revamping how you communicate your needs to your partner and friends. They can’t read your mind; they don’t know the ways in which you need your space. Tell them – lovingly.
- Still feeling stagnant? Put on your Kick Ass cape. Tap into your innate sense of adventure and fearlessness. If that feels impossible to you, find support for getting yourself back into your groove.
Six Life Path
- Sorry Six – but WHOA. Your Six energy with the Universal Six energy is quite the double-whammy. You of all people are feeling intensity around your and others’ relationship turbulence. Key: tap into your innate wisdom and sense of light responsibility, and steer clear of meddling and self-righteousness.
- This may also be the time when you renew your vows or in some way recommit to your loved one.
- Don’t take the world on your shoulders! You sometimes don’t feel as though you’re doing enough unless you’re putting out every fire. Breathe and mind your own business while allowing others to work through theirs.
Seven Life Path
- You’re really reflecting on your relationships this year and where you have and haven’t experienced trust (with yourself and with others) in your life. This is a great time to get to know that part of yourself and how you engage (or feel disengaged) with others.
- You might really be feeling this with intensity this year: you kind of want to be in relationship, but many ways…you really don’t. Try to understand when you need time alone, and understand how to form intimacy. The clearer you are about this, the more likely you’ll attract healthy and positive relationships into your life.
- Don’t give away the farm. You tend to have a compassionate heart and it’s hard to see others (and yourself) struggling. Trust in the process and find some positive in all of it along the way.
Eight Life Path
- Is this year forcing you to take a look at the way in which you relate to others? Have you been emotionally absent, at work most of the time, or worse, a victim of the world? This Six year is giving you a great opening to turn your attention to how to relate more effectively with those you love.
- When you feel yourself becoming blunt and opinionated, back off. Smile :-)
- Do you feel responsible for many people in your life, especially financially? If so, this is a good time to allow others to take their share of responsibility. Or if you’re on the other side of the Eight vibration, it’s time for you to take control of your life and stop expecting others’ to care for you. You were born to think big! Start now.
Nine Life Path
- Since your number is about completion and letting go, this can be a strange year for you. Your key to avoid relationship woes? Listening.
- It’s time to ask for support. You’re the absolute worst at asking for help with anything. Challenge yourself to ask other people for help and you’ll be shocked to see the love start rolling in.
- Throw out the doormat! That is, if you feel that other people in your life treat you that way. It’s time to show them who your really are – warts and all. Stand up, put up your personal boundaries and respect yourself, and they’ll stick around.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D, is the author of Redesign Your Life: Using Numerology to Create a Wildly Optimal You. www.feliciabender.com
